Counseling Services
Relationships
  1. I have a hard time relating to people and building relationships.   
    Yes, I agree.  No, I disagree.
  2. I find it difficult to relate to people.  
    Yes, I agree.  No, I disagree.
  3. I find it difficult to sustain an intimate relationship for an extended period of time. This makes me wonder if I am always going to be lonely.  
    Yes, I agree.  No, I disagree.
  4. My partner and I are often fighting and the very qualities that I once admired, now drive me nuts. If only my partner could see things my way, things would be different. 
    Yes, I agree.  No, I disagree.
  5. I find that I cannot allow my partner or my friends to know how I really feel in case I lose them and I find myself feeling increasingly distant from them.  
    Yes, I agree.  No, I disagree.
  6. I have infrequent or no sexual contact with my partner. My resentment is building up and I really don't feel as if I am loved enough.  
    Yes, I agree.  No, I disagree.
  7. My partner is threatening to leave me unless I change. This leaves me feeling frightened and resentful.  
    Yes, I agree.  No, I disagree.
  8. I become involved in more than one intimate relationship at the same time.  
    Yes, I agree.  No, I disagree.
  9. I find that I usually choose partners who abuse me in some way or who have problems with alcohol or other drugs which results in a loss of trust and respect.  
    Yes, I agree.  No, I disagree.
  10. My partner expects me to be available for sex to the point where I feel used as a convenience. I would prefer that my needs and feelings were considered.  
    Yes, I agree.  No, I disagree.
  11. There have been long periods when I have not spoken to my family. I am probably the "black sheep" of the family.  
    Yes, I agree.  No, I disagree.
  12. My partner makes me feel as if I can never do anything right. Nothing is ever good enough. 
    Yes, I agree.  No, I disagree.
  13. I feel that I do not receive the physical and/or emotional support that I need from my partner. As my resentment grows, I question whether or not I want to be in this relationship. 
     Yes, I agree.  No, I disagree.
  14. My partner is unreasonably jealous and does not approve of my friends. Sometimes I lie about where I have been so as not to be criticized and then feel guilty.   
    Yes, I agree.  No, I disagree.
  15. If I work harder to achieve more financial success, my partner will love me more and show more appreciation.  
    Yes, I agree.  No, I disagree.
  16. I frequently worry that there is something missing in my intimate relationship, but I can't seem to discover what it might be. There must be more to romance than what I am experiencing. 
    Yes, I agree.  No, I disagree.
  17. I am often caught in between wanting close contact with my partner and feeling so overwhelmed that I want to escape to be alone. I need lots of space to sort out my feelings.  
    Yes, I agree.  No, I disagree.
  18. I continually need reassurance in my personal relationships because I often doubt my partner's commitment to our love. 
    Yes, I agree.  No, I disagree.
  19. I sometimes feel totally bored by my relationships and would prefer to have more excitement in my life. Commitment may limit my sense of adventure and desire for a variety of experiences, so I think twice before becoming involved in a monogamous relationship.  
    Yes, I agree.  No, I disagree.
  20. I feel as if my relationship has gone long past the end date but still hang around because it feels secure. I wonder if this is how I want to spend the next ten years.  
    Yes, I agree.  No, I disagree.